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Dreams last for so long, even after you're gone...Wednesday, September 21, 2005
Can't let go
Dearest Wan,
I wanted to write to you about this fren of mine but I had been too busy lately. Well, I'm doing it now but it's gonna be a lot different from wat I initially wanted to tell you.
You see, I initially wanted to gripe about how she is living in denial. I mean, it is sooooo obvious that she's in love - or at the very least, infatuated - wif me other mate. She can't stop talking about him, she never ceases to praise him, she even tries to project her feelings for him to other younger girls. It started to be a lil irritating to us when they would just suddenly "move" into a world of their own - start talking like we are not there, move away from the group just to have private chats and laughs, talk about some "inside joke" and acting like the rest of us do not exist etc.
Why can't she just admit it?????
Then last nite, I got an answer.
She is not over her ex yet!!!!! It has been 8 months but it is apparent that she still can't let go. She shared (I'm not breaking her confidence by telling you this since you dun know who she is) of how she still keeps all the text messages she ever received from her ex!!!!! ALL OF THEM! When her mobile phone ran out of space, she would type them all out and save it in her PC.
And get this - she actually re-reads them! Even now! And she has tried so hard but she just can't bring herself to delete them!
So that's it, I thought. She is obviously attracted to this new guy but her heart just can't let go of her ex - that is why she is in denial.
And I feel for her.
The really sad thing is that she said if her ex asks her to get back together again, she would turn him down.
Aaaaarrrrrgggggghhhhhhhhh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Why? Methinks the problem is simple - she thinks too much. She has no doubt that her ex is and will be her soul-mate. But sumhow, she thinks that if they stay together, it will never work out due to some clashes in beliefs and priorities.
More than 8 months ago, I told her to hang on in there wif him - I knew certain people were trying to get her to break-up wif him (I hate those people - I hate people who actively can consciously seek to end other people's relationships). I told her not to let go cuz it is so hard to find a soul-mate. Surely the other difficulties can be worked out. After all, love conquers everything, doesn't it?
Well, as Debbie Gibson once said, "It's easy to give advice when your heart's not in it".
If I ever had a chance to get back together again wif you, you know I'd jump at it. Well, I'll never get that chance now - and it is hard for me to comprehend why my fren wouldn't jump at a chance to get back wif her ex if it ever arises.
The sad thing (and scary) was when she said "Soul-mates never end up together".
I was about to rebut that statement when I suddenly thought of you and me.
But then again, that's unfair to you. You have found your soul-mate in your man, haven't you?
Well, I found mine too. I oso have come to accept the fact that my soul-mate and I will never be together in this life.
I wanted to write to you about this fren of mine but I had been too busy lately. Well, I'm doing it now but it's gonna be a lot different from wat I initially wanted to tell you.
You see, I initially wanted to gripe about how she is living in denial. I mean, it is sooooo obvious that she's in love - or at the very least, infatuated - wif me other mate. She can't stop talking about him, she never ceases to praise him, she even tries to project her feelings for him to other younger girls. It started to be a lil irritating to us when they would just suddenly "move" into a world of their own - start talking like we are not there, move away from the group just to have private chats and laughs, talk about some "inside joke" and acting like the rest of us do not exist etc.
Why can't she just admit it?????
Then last nite, I got an answer.
She is not over her ex yet!!!!! It has been 8 months but it is apparent that she still can't let go. She shared (I'm not breaking her confidence by telling you this since you dun know who she is) of how she still keeps all the text messages she ever received from her ex!!!!! ALL OF THEM! When her mobile phone ran out of space, she would type them all out and save it in her PC.
And get this - she actually re-reads them! Even now! And she has tried so hard but she just can't bring herself to delete them!
So that's it, I thought. She is obviously attracted to this new guy but her heart just can't let go of her ex - that is why she is in denial.
And I feel for her.
The really sad thing is that she said if her ex asks her to get back together again, she would turn him down.
Aaaaarrrrrgggggghhhhhhhhh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Why? Methinks the problem is simple - she thinks too much. She has no doubt that her ex is and will be her soul-mate. But sumhow, she thinks that if they stay together, it will never work out due to some clashes in beliefs and priorities.
More than 8 months ago, I told her to hang on in there wif him - I knew certain people were trying to get her to break-up wif him (I hate those people - I hate people who actively can consciously seek to end other people's relationships). I told her not to let go cuz it is so hard to find a soul-mate. Surely the other difficulties can be worked out. After all, love conquers everything, doesn't it?
Well, as Debbie Gibson once said, "It's easy to give advice when your heart's not in it".
If I ever had a chance to get back together again wif you, you know I'd jump at it. Well, I'll never get that chance now - and it is hard for me to comprehend why my fren wouldn't jump at a chance to get back wif her ex if it ever arises.
The sad thing (and scary) was when she said "Soul-mates never end up together".
I was about to rebut that statement when I suddenly thought of you and me.
But then again, that's unfair to you. You have found your soul-mate in your man, haven't you?
Well, I found mine too. I oso have come to accept the fact that my soul-mate and I will never be together in this life.
posted by imissw # 3:16 pm 
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